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Her father reflects
Her father reflects on August 25th 2007 at her memorial service
Thank you all for coming and thereby demonstrating your love for our Lisa.
Let's pray. Heavenly Father, I am totally helpless and totally inadequate to be able to speak at a time of such extreme grieving. Lord Jesus, I am not sure if this is "theologically correct", but would you please give Lisa a big hug from me. Would you now please send your Holy Spirit to calm and empower me to do this talk. In the authority of Jesus I request this. Amen
I found out this week from my daughter Sonya that Lisa had mentioned that should she die, she would want Sonya and me to speak at her funeral. So here I am totally ungifted as a public speaker and a verbal loose cannon to boot.
Lisa was a beautiful child and I recall getting a request from Derek Johnnson asking for her hand in marriage. They were both 5 years old. I told Derek that it was nice of him but that Lisa was too old for him but that one day Sonya might work out. That is the only request I ever got for Lisa's hand in marriage. When Lisa was in a good mood she would refer to me as Dadio or say "See you later alligator". Lisa loved the outdoors and sports. She cycled to church with us numerous times and loved hiking and walking and swimming at Shawnigan Lake. I had some great hikes with her, such as to the base of Black Tusk. She loved God's creation. She hiked the West Coast Trail and went with her Grade 12 class on a missions trip to Mexico. This trip gave her a heart for the poor and down trodden.
Lisa embodied the definition of "love".
The reason I believe Lisa and I had a special relationship (Michelle and Sonya, you know I love you very much too) is because in my youth I was also addicted. So I realized Lisa's battle was more than just physical but also spiritual. Her e-mails to me meant a great deal. Here are a few exerts:
Dec 26 2006
The following are all in 2007:
April 9th she wrote:
May 21 from her hospital bed in Vancouver General after having been helped back to Canada from Costa Rica by her sister Sonya, she says:
I guess I'm a little hesitant to tell other people right now what the Lord has done for me because I want people to see me well physically too. I had told others in the past what God had done for me and I didn't get past anorexia. I think that others won't believe what I tell them now because I didn't get well before. I think others will only believe me now when they physically see me well too - am I making sense???
May 27th - here she recognizes her identity as a child of God and not as an anorexic:
June 3rd when asked by me what she thought led to her addiction:
July 27 When asked by me about writing out her story:
August 14th - the very Last E-mail exchange with Lisa the night in which she slipped into a comma:
One can get a good idea of a person's beliefs from the Bible verses they have highlighted. We just found Lisa's Bible on Sunday. Lisa highlighted many passages and I will just quote one because for some reason she perceived that she may be headed home to Jesus if her physical condition did not improve.
Lisa was found unconscious in her condo at 4:00 pm on Wednesday August 15th. Sometime after going to sleep the blood sugar level in her blood went to zero. This resulted in unconsciousness. By the time I got an ambulance for her by 4:00 pm her brain had already been damaged too much. She thus departed for heaven on August 16th at 8:31 PM at the Royal Jubilee Hospital. Ever since Lisa's restoration from her unconsciousness in Costa Rica, Lisa has NOT had an anorexic mind set. What I mean by this is that persons with anorexia view themselves as fat even though they are slim. They also do not recognize they have a problem and they will be very restrictive of the type of food they eat. None of these characteristics were displayed by Lisa since the end of April after nearly dying in Costa Rica. Her mind set was no longer anorexic but her body was still at a very low weight. She had also jettisoned her Vegan and strict Vegetarian tangents. Because of this I believe her doctors and I gave her more slack regarding her low weight. She even went out with Marie and I for supper recently to Sub-way to have a chicken sub. I was very hopeful that she would finally get victory over this. Lisa had her next doctor's appointment for Thursday, the day she died. She had promised to put herself into the hospital should she not have gained at least one pound that week.
I sometimes have to ask myself, "do I exhibit anorexic behaviour"? Probably. Allow me to explain. When I first experienced being set free from my addiction in my youth after getting to know the Lord, I had an unsatiable appetite for our manufacture's manual, the Bible. Over time I read it less and less because I thought I knew it all or because I had read it before. I noticed that I have been slowly starving myself from spiritual food over time. This event is reminding me to take the Lord's commandments in Matthew 22:36 more seriously. Here Jesus says "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: `Love your neighbor as yourself.' "
We received a phone call from Irene Robinson, the wife of Central Baptist's previous pastor, all the way from South Africa, offering her condolences. Marie and I thank our friend Pastor Marvin Croswell for his graveside service. Many thanks to Pastor Steve Vaughan who stayed with us at Lisa's bedside through her last night on earth and to Arnie Toews for his counseling. We also thank all the pastors and people at Central Baptist Church who tried to help Lisa over the years and all our brothers and sisters at our home church, Shawnigan Alliance Church, for their helpful attempts. We thank her Aunts, Ingrid and Angelika and some cousins who made a great effort to reach out to her and Marie's sister Edda, for her emotional support. We also thank her doctors, Dr. Colegrave, Dr. Derocher and Dr. Duncalf who battled her anorexic mindset. We thank all family and friends who have flooded us with their prayers and acts of kindness. Finally, we want to thank two very special people, Lisa Nelson and Leila Nelson who were her roommates at different times. The first time Lisa became unconscious Lisa Nelson found her just in time.
In closing, to get a handle on the tsunami waves of grief I experience. I found the story behind the writing of a well known hymn very helpful. This hymn was written after two major traumas in Horatio Spafford's life. The first was the great Chicago Fire of October 1871, which ruined him financially (he had been a wealthy businessman). Shortly after, while crossing the Atlantic, all four of Spafford's daughters died in a collision with another ship. Spafford's wife Anna survived and sent him the now famous telegram, "Saved alone." Several weeks later, as Spaford's own ship passed near the spot where his daughters died, the Holy Spirit inspired these words. They speak to the eternal hope that all Christian believers have, no matter what pain and grief befall them on earth.
When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
My sin, oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!
But, Lord, 'tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,
And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,
My precious Lisa, "see you later alligator".
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